Holding a grudge isn't healthy for heart, head or body-don't bother giving energy or time to it. In business it will cost you. Infecting future interactions you have to spend months mending. Some may sniff around networking groups to complain because of one incident that happened when my aunt was a natural blond. Not worth it. Turn that frown upside down and if you can't resolve it -leave it alone.
Then there is the too honest aficionado. Well-versed in every curse word in five languages, adding peeled layers of attitude seemingly sold as truth, doled out in emotional style. Have a coke and sit down. One, appreciation for the English language is not lost on me and to date I won't believe you any more than usual on any given topic by swearing so keep it to complete sentences. Two, its professional etiquette and good common sense-so if you are angling for respect CAN the bad language. Otherwise the potty mouth comes off like an old comedian begging for one last curtain call.
The shadow puppet is the one watching from the corner, never interacting and wonders why their business isn't taking off. The career wallflower locking in on the complaints of being invisible is boring and screams of question marks no one has energy to address. For the record, we see you, we are surmising as to whether you are nesting or on the verge of passing out. Neither is a positive. Get out of the corner, talk to people. Ask them what attracted them to the event or opportunity you both found yourself at.
In other words-do something! Engage. Stop creating false-positives by assuming the spread of business cards on the table means something. It does mean something, you recognized that others should be aware of your branding but that is not the end game. You build a bridge one piece of wood or steel at a time and you have to keep it going with strong substance.
Noise makers are some of the most interesting. They have the tallest tales but fail on delivery. Lies leave a trail-don't tell them. Listen to me now-it does not work. Lies climb over your reputation like ivy. Unstoppable and inevitably you lose.
Relinquish the kiddie antics, fables and nursery rhymes and join the grown up's table. We're saving a spot for you.
Until next time~