Due to the overwhelmingly emotional response we received in regard to last week's blog post, we have decided to extend its front page status until Tuesday, September 30th. Feel free to find it in our archives after that time-We want to thank each and every one of you and look forward to continuing our quest in providing quality articles and services for years to come.
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After interviewing a host of individuals, men, women, parents with children, the devastation is palpable. While the names have been changed, the sentiments are the same, hurt, disbelief, panic, shame, the list goes on.
"Molly": "I didn't know where to go. The first beating I shrugged off and after the second and third, I thought this was how my relationship was supposed to go"
"Deena": I let it go for too long and now I can't stop it"
"Barney": I'm from the old school- where if you did something wrong, you got beat by everybody in the neighborhood before you got home. Then your momma got home beat you again and you were put under punishment even after all that."
"Dean": I'm not sure if I should tell. I feel like I will get in trouble or someone will blame me for having to get a beating in the first place. And the thing is, I don't even know what I did wrong?"
"Gene": "We have prominent roles within our community. No one would understand or relate to us, that something like this could happen to a wealthy family, seemingly, well, perfect."
Any of these sound familiar?
"This will be our little secret." "No one has to know, we will work it out ourselves-ok?!" It is never ok to hit. Never. It is never ok to be accepting of someone else controlling your life, your mind or your personal space with violence implemented or implied. You owe it to yourself to seek help and break the cycle of physical and mental anguish left in the wake of domestic violence.
This type of behavior does not happen overnight and breaking out from its prison-like bonds may not end with the last strike across the face, but seeking help is the first step. Instead of focusing on the statistics, get the help you need. Tell someone that you have been hurt.
Don't wait for it to hit the news, trend all of the social airways, or puts someone on the hot seat. Getting beat down rears its ugly head in every class, culture, age and social arena. Why are you waiting to act? Because someone famous made the news? This is not some hot button topic, it is your life here.
It takes courage and strength, yes, but it also takes you valuing your life enough to care what happens to you- from this moment forward.
The Domestic Violence Hotline is toll free: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
No more hunkering down-You have nothing to be ashamed of. Let this not be the last way we meet.
Nothing in life comes without a faulty process, especially so, when it comes to change and growth. Errors, mistakes and missteps are commonality-stop beating yourself over every hurdle large. As humans we are imperfect, flawed and beautiful. What we are not is able to avoid the pitfalls of learning curves.
One of my first jobs as a young person could have gone a bit smoother if I had not overthought every minor detail. There is nothing wrong with detail and wanting to get it right, but when it actually impedes the progress of the task and causes time management issues, its time to rethink your process.
Pause And Reflect-Acknowledge the mistake-stop the avoidance. Period. Take a moment to think about how you got there and how to avoid repetitive behavior in the area needing attention.
Keep Working On It-Usually it takes a while to get whatever it is that is causing you to error, changing into a positive, actionable routine. Possibly a repeat offender that you allow to take advantage of you, borrow from you, take something from you emotionally. Changing habits means changing hearts and mindsets. We are all affected by what we read, listen to and who we choose for association. Contemplate the steps you take when choosing friends, career paths and recreation, these may influence you more than you think.
Be Honest With Yourself-Do a self-examination. We all need one from time to time. Many ask themselves why they are not on a certain path, why they seem chase the wind without ever making any real advancement. Check yourself, digging deeper as you discover and tap into the source of pain, healing and development. In other words, learn from the past mistakes so you don't trip over your future.
Open your mind, distinguish the difference between information and knowledge beneficial to you, and never give up doing the right things for a better life.
How about that for emotional intelligence!
Until next time~
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