We know what bullying is. The teasing, prodding, abusive speech and actions towards others to intimidate, hurt, damage another person. What many do not dwell on is how a person got to that point. If it were as simple as saying "STOP!", the malaise that is bullying would have ceased long ago.
A chronic syndrome creating further reach, thanks to the internet, where one can be touched by a few or tens of thousands within seconds, hurts. With the onslaught of emotions caught in its path, the bully may not even realize how this all started. There are no "types" as bullying crops its ugly head up into virtually all arenas, socially, physically, financially and verbally.
You might view the concept of bullying as primarily a social issue, but what does the person using it as a weapon really want? What is their objective? Are they satisfied after the first encounter? Usually the answer is no. The individual may not be happy with themselves. It may not be a generalized self-esteem issue, as the common root of the behavioral rants trend.
It could very well be the way they view authority or role models. If one sees parents or others they look to for guidance seemingly getting their way or making progress with these methods, and never sees the trap door, they might see this as success. Undermining the goodwill that being kind produces is tossed out at the prosperous notion that brief, biting exchanges are the best way-to get your way.
Once upon a time, in a land we all live, if something said or written sparked controversy, you spoke your peace and moved on. Now the RX is strike to bring you down. Why don't you work on you. Self-examination is enlightening and painful. If this is your plight, work on it because bullying is not the recourse. You can do better than this. I do not know what attributed to the course of action that led you here, but you can tap the source and nip it in the bud. This is a learned behavior and can be reversed.
Check yourself, yes, you, not blaming others, despite contributory evidence. The signs you ignored along the way might help you see the image in the mirror a bit differently.
My next article will share some identifiers and precursors. Each of us deserves the very best without feeling the mental or physical boot mark in the back. Instead of returning an eye for an eye or resorting to bullying, try one small act of kindness. A step that takes little effort, brings a bouquet to whomever is the recipient, and is infectious! Until next time.
Best!
Dawn
A chronic syndrome creating further reach, thanks to the internet, where one can be touched by a few or tens of thousands within seconds, hurts. With the onslaught of emotions caught in its path, the bully may not even realize how this all started. There are no "types" as bullying crops its ugly head up into virtually all arenas, socially, physically, financially and verbally.
You might view the concept of bullying as primarily a social issue, but what does the person using it as a weapon really want? What is their objective? Are they satisfied after the first encounter? Usually the answer is no. The individual may not be happy with themselves. It may not be a generalized self-esteem issue, as the common root of the behavioral rants trend.
It could very well be the way they view authority or role models. If one sees parents or others they look to for guidance seemingly getting their way or making progress with these methods, and never sees the trap door, they might see this as success. Undermining the goodwill that being kind produces is tossed out at the prosperous notion that brief, biting exchanges are the best way-to get your way.
Once upon a time, in a land we all live, if something said or written sparked controversy, you spoke your peace and moved on. Now the RX is strike to bring you down. Why don't you work on you. Self-examination is enlightening and painful. If this is your plight, work on it because bullying is not the recourse. You can do better than this. I do not know what attributed to the course of action that led you here, but you can tap the source and nip it in the bud. This is a learned behavior and can be reversed.
Check yourself, yes, you, not blaming others, despite contributory evidence. The signs you ignored along the way might help you see the image in the mirror a bit differently.
My next article will share some identifiers and precursors. Each of us deserves the very best without feeling the mental or physical boot mark in the back. Instead of returning an eye for an eye or resorting to bullying, try one small act of kindness. A step that takes little effort, brings a bouquet to whomever is the recipient, and is infectious! Until next time.
Best!
Dawn
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