Domesticated Violence

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After interviewing a host of individuals, men, women, parents with children, the devastation is palpable. While the names have been changed, the sentiments are the same, hurt, disbelief, panic, shame, the list goes on.

"Molly": "I didn't know where to go. The first beating I shrugged off and after the second and third, I thought this was how my relationship was supposed to go"

"Deena": I let it go for too long and now I can't stop it"

"Barney": I'm from the old school- where if you did something wrong, you got beat by everybody in the neighborhood before you got home. Then your momma got home beat you again and you were put under punishment even after all that."

"Dean": I'm not sure if I should tell. I feel like I will get in trouble or someone will blame me for having to get a beating in the first place. And the thing is, I don't even know what I did wrong?"

"Gene": "We have prominent roles within our community. No one would understand or relate to us, that something like this could happen to a wealthy family, seemingly, well, perfect."

Any of these sound familiar?

"This will be our little secret." "No one has to know, we will work it out ourselves-ok?!" It is never ok to hit. Never. It is never ok to be accepting of someone else controlling your life, your mind or your personal space with violence implemented or implied. You owe it to yourself to seek help and break the cycle of physical and mental anguish left in the wake of domestic violence.

This type of behavior does not happen overnight and breaking out from its prison-like bonds may not end with the last strike across the face, but seeking help is the first step. Instead of focusing on the statistics, get the help you need. Tell someone that you have been hurt.

Don't wait for it to hit the news, trend all of the social airways, or puts someone on the hot seat. Getting beat down rears its ugly head in every class, culture, age and social arena. Why are you waiting to act? Because someone famous made the news? This is not some hot button topic, it is your life here.

It takes courage and strength, yes, but it also takes you valuing your life enough to care what happens to you- from this moment forward.

The Domestic Violence Hotline is toll free: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)


No more hunkering down-You have nothing to be ashamed of. Let this not be the last way we meet.