it causes checks and balances to have a cohesive, proactive outcome. Why is
humility so important and how can it increase your market value in business and
enrich your home life?
First, it is good to understand what humility is. Webster's Dictionary
defines humility as "a freedom from pride and arrogance; a lowliness of mind;
modest estimation of one's own self-worth; an act of submission or
Some may associate this definition with being weak but how you react when
issues interrupt your normal routine can signal a need for change. Perhaps a
cell phone company added charges you were not aware of, inflating your monthly
statement. Or you discover after unpacking the groceries, that your most
cherished, seasonal peaches which inspire your annual twenty minute drive out of
your way, were accidently omitted at checkout. Do you overreact and drop
everything, vowing to scream at the clerk as you race back to the store?
Unwittingly, you unleashed what was initially a mental tirade with escalation to
verbal assault on innocent, albeit forgetful, victims.
Two key elements get lost in the crossfire: the dignity and respect we should
have for others and ourselves. Like a runaway train, moving regrettably towards
a point of no return, relationships old and new can be jeopardized with
Take a moment. Breathe. Assess. Regroup. Whether you associate these actions
with humility or not, using just a bit of this tried and true quality goes a
long way. Humility may tenderize a sensitive situation. To some degree there may
have been a solution reached prior to our melt-down. But alas, we missed the
boat on that one in our quest to conquer all and take no prisoners.
Now think of the pressures associated with helming your company's business
when impending disappointment looms. Payroll arrives later than anticipated
causing you to muster the courage to inform a marginally overworked staff.
Deadlines are not being met. Sickness overtakes your team on a day when a new
and influential client arrives for an unscheduled visit. The webinar you set up
has malfunctioned within seconds of going live. What do you do?
One simple step. Put on the quality of humility. It cascades effortlessly
through many of our daily tasks without us realizing its capable existence.
Take A Moment
How did you get here? Was there an alternative plan to stave off the surprise
attack that reared its ugly head? Every situation can have a revolving solution
despite time lapses. Never think of difficulties as lost causes because that
creates the first line of defeat not defense.
It takes proper planning, forethought and good preparation on your part
to succeed beyond the trials.
When you really think about it the issue at hand is usually not of five-alarm
caliber even though we are burning up inside. Take a deep breath before
responding or acting on something you might regret later. Breathing gives
necessary air to the body to cool our emotions. Distributing appropriate air
flow to our internal airways, (lessening jagged or staggering breaths we take
when anxious), which can calm us down and help restore healthy energy. The end
result: strong decision making stemming from accurate knowledge which generates
proper motives and actions.
Breathing in and out keeps a positive fluid motion, yielding access to
uplifting thoughts and actions.
Look at the reality of the event. Is it worth creating another situation by
becoming heated at the person who erred or by turning into someone that later is
penalized for their lack of discretion? Humility makes you look at the tangible,
honest evidence of an experience. It gives your performance stability and
insight without duress.
Take a look at the facts and sort out real from fiction before trying to
start, fix or follow up.
Now we are getting somewhere. Creating a plan B, C, or D. Listing out the
steps to heal the wound, mend the bridge. Only you can determine how this will
turn out no matter your role in the situation. Learn to temper your thoughts so
that they work in your favor. This determines how you plan on getting beyond the
elephant in the room when issues do surface.
Being humble is more than a mindset. It incorporates a willingness to accept
refinement. Noting success beyond your current plight and understanding
limitations. Deference of character is not based on culture, status or
education. It is however, based on how well you evaluate yourself in meeting and
maintaining realistic objectives with a level head.
There is an exceptional article on www.incharacter.org written by Chairman and CEO, Theodore Roosevelt Malloch of the Roosevelt Group. It is entitled, 'The Office:
How To Succeed In Business Without Really Trampling'. The outline focuses on
advanced business leadership goals amid varying social climates and how to
achieve greatness without reducing others to puddles of sweat.
Remember: Positive directives are awesome but they only work when you
compliment them with common sense, hard work and realities of what you can do.
Set realistic goals. Keep humility in the front seat not in the trunk. Leave
room for expansion. Realize the process is worth fighting for and that you have
the ability to own it.
Grow through and with humility.