1. Do not allow anyone to tell you that you can just shrug it off, these are your feelings and yours alone. You have taken the brave step of realizing instead of ignoring and displacing this emotion.
2. Try not to feel overwhelmed-easier said than done but now you can ponder and seek help to fix whatever is causing the fears.
3. Find someone to talk to that will display an unbiased, listening ear.
4. Seek closure but do not set the bar high on instant results-to error is human, but to rush a solution may cause additional injury. Whatever caused your pain initially did not occur overnight. The healing progression may take even longer based on age of concern(s), personality, present encounters, and compounded sufferings: illness, family problems, career stress, etc. So do not expect that resolution will happen instantly, otherwise you may set yourself up for failure.
I suffered a long time due to insecurities about my weight. After losing 126 pounds I realized that I still had to work on how I felt about me the person. It was never about the weight, ridicule or my appearance before, during or after. It was about me. How I got to that point. What my qualities, focuses, aspirations were.
I had to find a way to recognize my assets. I wrote them down, said out loud. Talked to others, i.e. found a confidant or two and I shared my passion for life with others. In other words, I validated my being present and worthy. Not a leaf in the wind but someone with a firm foundation, able to look another human in the eye and say I am worth it. This is why you should hire me, believe and value me.
Today, I have a strong, positive, productive outlook and a growing business. For anyone out there still trying to resolve their fears, please know there is hope, help and healing.
Until next time~